Listening is a big part of how young children learn, play, and connect with the world around them. For preschoolers, “active listening” means more than just hearing words. It’s about focusing, understanding what they hear, and responding in thoughtful ways. This might look like making eye contact, following directions, answering questions, or waiting their turn to speak. These foundational skills support social-emotional development and school readiness. With time and support, your child can develop these skills and make meaningful connections.

Here are a few simple early childhood listening strategies you can try at home to improve active listening: 

Model Active Listening 

Give your child your full attention when they’re talking to you. Pause what you’re doing, make eye contact, and get down to their level. Nod, smile, or repeat back what they’ve said to show you’re truly listening. Phrases like “I hear you” or “Let me make sure I understand…” help validate their thoughts and feelings.

Teach Whole Body Listening

Talk about how we use our whole body to listen: “Listening ears,” “watching eyes,” “quiet mouth,” “still hands,” “thinking brain,” and “respectful hearts.” Make it playful and consistent! This is something we regularly practice in our schools. As we begin Circle Time, we remind our students of these steps to help them listen and learn. 

Play Listening Games

These games make listening exciting and strengthen other important skills through play.

• Simon Says: A classic that boosts focus and listening as children follow directions, but only when “Simon Says!”
• Freeze Dance: Invite your child to dance and move, but freeze when the music stops, helping build self-control.
• What Was That Sound?: A playful way to sharpen listening and language skills by identifying and describing different sounds.
• Draw What You Hear: A great activity to spark creativity and comprehension as your child draws what they hear in a story or description.

Read Together Daily

Books are a natural way to build attention and listening skills. As you read, ask questions like “What do you think will happen next?” or “Why do you think she felt that way?” Make reading interactive by inviting your child to clap whenever they hear a special word.

Make Listening Routine

Every day moments are perfect for building listening skills. During meals, car rides, or bedtime, ask open-ended questions like “What’s your favorite animal, and why?” or “What made you happy today?” Take turns sharing your answers. Let your child lead the conversation sometimes, and model how to listen thoughtfully and respond with care. 

When your child shows signs of being a good listener, let them know you noticed! Praise their efforts with specific feedback, like “I noticed how you waited your turn to talk. That was great listening!” Positive reinforcement builds confidence and encourages them to keep practicing.

By modeling good habits, playing together, and celebrating your child’s progress, you’re helping your child build strong communication skills that will last a lifetime.